Posted in Hair & Beauty, Street Style

Hair and Men

Two of my favourite things. Well, not all the time. Let’s start with the simpler, less complicated one, hair. When it comes to the ‘Fro, especially the styling, it’s a bit tricky. There are a lot of resourceful sites but as black women, our hair isn’t the same, similar but not entirely the same. You get the curlier afros, the kinky afro, the straighter afros, the afros with a lot of volume but not so much hair and the afros with a lot of volume and a lot of hair too. It’s a variety. So sometimes styling differs because of texture. Now for me, I had the kinkier afro. And I say “had” because I grew tired of the lifestyle after a year or two and went back to my comfort zone, relaxed hair. Anyway, after cut my hair I absolutely fell in love with it. And so did everyone around me. And in my circle, when any female cuts her hair it’s a big deal. The saying “when a woman cuts her hair, she’s about to change her life” means everything to us. So the excitement was awe-inspiring. The snip happened and I was ready for my change and the change came alright. The change being hair fetishism.


The beauty about men is their ability to not know what they want but know exactly what they don’t want. Complicated. When it comes to natural hair there are 3 categories for males species, you’ll find the ones who hate natural hair and find it “distracting” or “icky”, the ones willing to consider it but you can spot the uncertainty in their face a mile away and the ones who outright love it and think the world of women with “the natural look’.  And the minute I went under the knife they scattered into the different categories like bees. Weirdly enough, the majority of the men who found me “interesting” were white men. Oh, and they made it known. The fascination was relatively new to me, that someone would simply and only find me attractive because of my hair and how “natural” it is. In a way it took me back to the movie “Something New” where the white guy (played by Simon Baker) is a attracted the black girl (played by Sanaa Lathan) and only because she’s JUST gone natural. We notice this because prior to her hair cut and growing it naturally, he wasn’t so drawn to her. Now, don’t get me wrong this new interest had me at the edge of my seat, I wanted to see what else I could do with this new change, or who else. More than anything, I wanted to know ‘why?’.


image by: @hlengiwe_lesedi)

Until I stumbled upon one of Amandla Stenberg’s posts on Instagram saying, “black features are beautiful, not black women” and I realised how a black woman is fetishized because of her features. The full lips, curves, dark skin and hair are all found super attractive but not on a black woman. Meaning some men simply want to date a black girl for the “experience”. But that’s not always the case, author and relationship expert Lisa Michelle from Naturally Curvy says “it takes a certain amount of confidence to rock the natural look, and your inner beauty can be exuded through your hair, it may be undeniable to the opposite sex.” So for those white men drawn to black women, our character immediately comes across as genuine and not so superficial because our hair is natural. The ability to be just yourself, stripped away of the artificial enhancements like weaves and braids, oozes through our hair.


So if you also plan on going under the knife and experience a new found interest, be weary of who you let into your natural and organic new circle.


Posted in Hair & Beauty

Going Natural and the Qualms that Come with It

The “chop chop” “snip snip” moment is a big one for many black women especially if you’re transitioning from relaxed hair to growing a natural afro. Firstly, it’s a big responsibility to take on because let’s be honest, growing a natural afro is a hassle, time consuming and sometimes a bit costly. Secondly, you need to let your creative side come to play because hiring a stylist to make your ‘fro hairdos look golden isn’t an option we all have. But let’s get back to the “snip snip”.

Let me take you back to when I decided to go under the knife with my silky, straight and a little over-the-shoulder length hair. I cried. Well just a little. Okay, you want a more tea than that, it was the end of my first year in college and I must say, I needed a change of scenery or a change in something. Something had to give. Because the bob was in the time, I decided to pull off a Rihanna inspired bob cut and if I may say so myself, in Miss Wendy Williams’ voice “it was a slay-ation”. Eventually though, I grew tired of it and stopped delaying the inevitable and chopped off everything! And so, I cried. My main reason though was because I wanted to go natural. Have an afro. Be that proud black girl with a rich, bouncy afro that defies gravity. Don’t take it for granted though, it’s not easy having and being that black girl with a rich, bouncy afro that defies gravity.   


The battle begun by being black. Me vs society. My blackness would now shine through brighter than ever and be in your face. And that’s a bit tricky in our modern society. The irony of the term “modern society” when what’s meant to be modern isn’t seen as normal, or whats meant to be normal isn’t seen as modern. As a black women, we are targeted. For our hair, our body, skin colour etc. Our beauty undergoes so much scrutiny. And when it comes to our hair, it’s always about its texture, the colour, “it’s too difficult to manage” or simply because “it’s too ‘black’”. And we always hear how beautiful it is when it’s straight or relaxed. At the workplace, in schools etc. That the black natural state of hair is “unprofessional”.


Weirdly enough, we hear that a lot from other black women too. Take the black girls of Pretoria Girls’ High who were told they needed to “fix” and chemically straighten their hair to the point where they had to protest for their hair, to keep their hair natural. At what point do little girls have to cry and protest for their hair? And to that I ask, where were the black female teachers? The notion of conformity and making society comfortable and happy has been thrown into the world and made to seem normal. But we so often forget that we, too, are society. I’m society and you are society. So, since you and I, black child, are society too, why not then not make ourselves comfortable? Made ourselves happy?

Posted in Fashion

Fishnet Stockings

Hey dolls.

It’s autumn, and my pantyhose and fishnet stockings have come out to play.



The Peep Fishnet Stockings trend is everywhere right now & I’m so obsessed with it.

Instead of hiding pantyhose & fishnets underneath all that pile of clothing, show it off! It oddly ties everything together.


This is just a mini post to boast about my new found love 😍


Posted in Lifestyle

Roasted Sweet Potato Wedges with Green Yoghurt Sauce


I’m so addicted to healthy food lately. And I think i kind of have to be if im going to gym and try to build some muscle. But I’ve never been the type to like sweet potatoes. They always seemed so yuck to me growing up and I hated the ‘sweetness’. I didn’t get it. I didn’t get the fuss over them. Till I grew up. Now I cannot absolutely wait to put them in my mouth and devour them 😍 a mini orgasm in my mouth.

Here is one of the recipes I’ve come to love when it comes to sweet potatoes. I don’t like the traditional boiled and spiced sweet potatoes. It seems bland and boring so one day I bumped into this beautiful roasted sweet potato with green yoghurt sauce recipe and I can finally say I know what love is. LOL.

Hope you love it…

(Serves 4)

* 2 large sweet potatoes, cut lengthwise into wedges
* 1 tablespoon of cornstarch or arrowroot powder
* 2 tablespoons of extra virgin olive oil
* 1 tablespoon of Italian seasoning
* 1 teaspoon of sea salt
* Pinch of fresh ground pepper

Green Yoghurt Sauce
* 1 cup of Greek yoghurt or unsweetened coconut Yoghurt
* 2 tablespoons of tahini Paste or sesame seed oil/seeds
* 1 garlic clove, finely chopped
* 1/2 cup of basil leaves
* 2 tablespoons of parsley leaves
* 1 tablespoon of cilantro leaves
* 1 tablespoon of fresh lemon juice
* 1/2 teaspoon of sea salt
* Fresh pepper

1. Preheat oven on 200^C/425^F, line baking sheet with parchment paper and set aside
2. Place wedges and cornstarch in a large plastic bag and toss/shake to coat evenly. Transfer the wedges to a large bowl and add olive oil, Italian seasoning, salt and pepper. Spread the wedges on to your baking sheet. Bake for 30-35 minutes, stopping halfway through to flip them over. Until the edges are browned.
3. While the potatoes bake, make your sauce. Combine all your ingredients into an upright blender. Until it’s well chopped and the sauce is green in colour.
4. Serve the potatoes warm with the sauce on the side.

Happy eating Lovelies.



Posted in Fashion

Favorites This Week: Color & Print

Growing up, I loved  change colour for items. I would wear red and blue together with a touch of pink and a hint of green. Yes, it looked awful. LOL. But I loved doing it. Then as I grew older, I detached from colour and fell into the black/white with grey ‘trend’. That was amazing but it wasn’t me, you know. So eventually I fell back into colour, with a little more taste this time of course. There is a saying “dress for your personality” and I’m pretty vibrant and “Out there” so I guess that’s why attached colour back into my wardrobe.

Print, on the other hand, is more like something I was born into. Being African, I learnt from a very young age to embrace my culture and the difference in it. So it’s safe to say I am absolutely in love with African printed clothing, mix it up with a bit of western and boom! You’ve got yourself a winner.

So I had A photo shoot with an absolutely amazing friend and photographer ( check out his page on Instagram @i_am_5ifty) and got an opportunity to sure of the little bit of my style, my favourites this week. I’m in love with this pictures! AND I cut my here you guys! *screams*

I love this look. It has all the right ‘pops’. Just enough for a double stare amd not over the top. And I didn’t even have to put on a bra!


Here it is again without the hat though. Clean. To the point.


An African printed boob-tube tee paired with a belt to create Thato curve between my upper and lower body, and my grandma shoes (I think I’m in love with these shoes).



Posted in Fashion

March wardrobe Must-Haves

Hey dolls.

I’m such a distressed damsel in the morning when it’s time to pick out an outfit. And even if I plan it out the night before, I’m such a mess and indecisive monster in the morning. Lol. I drag all the clothes out of my wardrobe and just pick them up one by one in a frenzy just trying to find the write look. Don’t you judge me.

What’s helped me out though are statement/staple pieces I have in the wardrobe and so I center the rest of the outfit around it.

These are some of the staple pieces that are essential ladies…

Leather Jacket


Whether it’s biker chic or half jacket, a leather is so cute and timeless. It can transition from day to night in a sec, and it adds so much flare to your personality. Leather jackets though are not friendly in summer. You will sweat like a pig and NOBODY wants that.

Distressed Denim Jeans


This is a norm. This is important. This is no secret. This is fashion 101. Denim jeans have been a staple piece since the 50s. But there’s something about a distressed or ‘washed’ COMFORTABLE denim jean. It makes you seen cooler, edgier. It’s a game changer. A conversation starter. Come on now, who doesn’t want that?

Vintage Wash Denim Jacket

This is a piece that can and will go down in history. Literally. A denim jacket is good for all ages and sizes. It’s another classic item that needs no explanation.

Flat Bold Colour Clutch


A pop of colour is one thing I’m always trying to have in an outfit as an accessory, be it a choker, heels or a blouse, BUT nothing beats a bold coloured clutch. It can bright up any look, in any season.

Strappy Sandal/Heel

Nothing too high, because we’re not all on a heel craze. So it’s super cute, comfortable and a day-to-Night wear. Love.

Silk Blouse


Picture this: a silk crisp white blouse, distressed denim jeans and a strappy sandal. Done. You’re ready for work. You’re ready for a meeting. You’re ready for lunch with the girls.

Wool Coat


I own about 5 wool coats and 1 fur coat. It’s not much but they are my prized babies. There’s a certain something about a coat/blazer that polishes up a look. Don’t you think??

Happy shopping y’all.



Posted in Hair & Beauty

In The Spirit of Simplicity – A Natural Look

Hey dolls

So its back to school season. 2nd year, 1st semester. And I must say I’m really excited about it. Making new friends, seeing old ones. Frat parties. College drama. Assignments. Long days. Late nights. Okay, maybe I’m not so excited anymore.

What I am excited about though, is tuning into my college make up creations. I won’t lie, this past December was a hectic one. A really glamorous one. I had my face all bronzed up on the 16th, opted for a bold and bright lip on the 25th and topped it up with a smokey eye on New Years Eve. So I guess its safe to say, I’m ready for a more natural look this season. A clean, nudey look.


• Start by creating a flawless base with moisturizing cream. My favourite: Johnson’s Face Care Oil Control Facial Cream. It controls and contains shine and keeps my skin looking and feeling healthy.

• Then apply a lightweight foundation. My favourite: Signature Liquid Make Up Perfect Finish Foundation. I looove it. I definitely never end up with any creases or cracks when I use this baby

• Brighten up your complexion with a glowing blush. My favourite: Clinique Limited Edition 3 in 1 Palette. It has 10 eyeshadows, 2 beautiful glittery glow blushes and 10 lipstick palettes. WHAT MORE COULD I ASK FOR?

• Opt for an illuminating eyeshadow and lengthen your lashes with a mascara that doesn’t clump up your lashes.

• Lastly revive your lips with a lip cream. My favorite will FOREVER be Vaseline Petroleum Jelly. Oh! And finish it off with a neutral matte nude lipstick.

A natural look is definitely a slayage on its own.